August 9th, 2007

Mama Deb

Phone calls

My husband and I both have parents in their seventies or over - his father just turned 86. They're all, thank God, in reasonably good health and are all absolutely mentally competent, so we have much to be grateful for. But there are also things to worry about, and phone calls to dread.

We all have lists of phone calls we don't want to get. Close to the top of the list are ones that contain the words "car", "accident" and "hospital." As in, "I'm a nurse at St. Francis Hospital in Poughkeepsie. Your parents were in an accident, and we're keeping them overnight."

My in-laws are, so far as we know, *fine*, but they were still helicoptered to that hospital and so they stayed. Apparently, Dad passed out or fell asleep and ran off the road. No one else, thank God, was involved. My brother-in-law, who happened to be interning in an organic farm this summer, is meeting his wife in Poughkeepsie and going to see them today. We haven't heard from any of them since last night, but that seems to indicate that everything is okay. Presumably, he'll take them back to the city since they can't stay in their country house without a car.

Their car was totalled.

I'm not considering this last to be a bad thing. At all. This is their second accident in three years. However, they're now thinking of getting a car *just* for the country and taking the bus to and from the city. I'm...

Okay, if I had my way, they'd just sell the country house and get it over with.

On the other hand, now may be the time for us to consider buying a car.

(And now I'm also thinking about my mother and Lenny. They're in their midseventies, my mother has done damage to at least one tree, and they *don't* live in NYC. What's going to happen when they can't drive any more?)
Mama Deb

In-law update

Thank you ALL for your kind thoughts and prayers and wishes.

My father-in-law is in ICU getting blood thickeners. He's quite awake, and he now has his glasses and hearing aid, so he's not isolated. (Apparently, when the police local to where the accident was heard the words "hearing aid", they searched the car themselves for it.) But he was on blood thinners for his congestive heart failure, and - not good right now.

My mother-in-law is dizzy - her inner ear may have been disturbed when the car ROLLED OVER THE EMBANKMENT. (People, please, please, PLEASE wear seatbelts. They did - they only needed stitches.) It's going away slowly.

My brother-in-law got their belongings, including Mom's computer and her copy of HP. So she has what to read. We're trying to figure out what happens if they're released this weekend. I may well rent a car tomorrow just in case it's needed on Sunday.

Meanwhile, my mother (yes, I called her. She should know what's doing with her machateinisteh, no?) promises up and down that Lenny's a good driver.

I know what she's afraid of, and I dread the day it will have to happen, but it's, God willing, a long way away.

Jonathan is doing fine - he's spoken to his mother and brother and he's reassured that all will be well.

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