To our disappointment, it was separate seating, with a rather pretty carved wooden screen between the sides. And the seating was interesting. The crowd was mostly friends of the parents - the boy's classmates sat at one long table. And the parents had basically two sets of friends - the ones they knew in their old neighborhood, where we met them at Maxie's bris, and the ones in their new neighborhood, where we also live now.
I was not seated with the other women from Park Slope. I was seated with the women in the Bible study group. And I couldn't imagine it otherwise, because they've become close friends, and I've drifted apart from my old ones. But it was interesting all the same.
My husband - he sat with two men from Park Slope who are on the outs with the rabbi. He also sat with the band (a single keyboardist). It was the table of Misfit Toys. :) But he likes both of them, so that was fine.
And Maxie gave a speech his older brother had written an hour before, and his father gave a long rambling one, and my current rabbi (shared by this family now) gave a lovely speech where he managed to engage the entire table of seventh graders. And my old rabbi joked. And the food was nice. And the dancing was good. And now I'm tired, and happy.