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Mama Deb [userpic]
Happy Civil New Year!

May the next twelve months be good ones.

It sort of snuck up on me - I wasn't actually thinking of it as New Year's Eve yesterday because, well, there was so much other stuff going on. Shabbat, of course, plus it was Chanukah and Rosh Chodesh (the New Moon, the beginning of the new month.) And we had a bar mitzvah plus I was leading the discussion at my Shabbos group. Who had room to think of anything else?

Shabbat Rosh Chodesh Chanukah is fun because you say *everything*. By which I mean, the standard grace after meals booklets start with the basic grace after meals (meals being defined as ones in which you had a quantity of bread.) Since that can be any day, you have the standard every day "bentching". But Shabbat, Rosh Chodesh and Holidays each have their own special additions. These are seperated from the standard text by boxes or different fonts or being placed under the main text with reminders.

Shabbat gets the paragraph called "retzeh" and Rosh Chodesh and the major holidays get "yaleh v'yavo" and Purim and Chanukah get "al ha-nissim", and it's second nature to just skip them. So it's fun when you get a day that's Shabbat and Rosh Chodesh and Chanukah, and you get to say them all. The same goes for saying the prayer services, except that there's a special additional one for Shabbat Rosh Chodesh.

And then there are the greetings - "Good Shabbos! A guten Chodesh! Freilichen Chanukah!" No room for a secular new year in there, you see.

Plus we had so much else to do. And then Shabbat ended and I came home (the class started and ran late) and we lit our menorahs for the last time (we're going to my in-laws tonight and will light the last candles there.) And, I don't know. I didn't think about it being New Year's Eve until about 11:30, when we discussed *if* we were staying up, but we decided that as it was 11:30, we might as well. We had a glass of wine at midnight.


You could get a longer benching, by having a brit (circumcision) or a sheva brachot (wedding party - the official celebration of a wedding lasts a whole week; you can't get married on Shabbat, but anyone who got married within the past week is still celebrating it). Each of those get their own special additions to the benching, so the longest possible benching would be if you had both a brit and a wedding party, on a Shabbat/Rosh Chodesh/Chanukah, such as yesterday.

This is true and also would be a lot of fun if that happened.

And a Chanukah wedding would be lovely, wouldn't it?

I've been to some chanukah weddings.

Nod. I haven't been invited to any, but now that I have friends with children of marriage age, I'm sure it will happen.

Do they time things so guests can go home and light their candles first? Or do they have a candlelighting at the wedding?

We were at a chanukch wedding a couple of years ago, and they lit one menorah for everyone right before the wedding, when everyone was already seated (with the possible exception of some of the people in the wedding party - I think they were following the custom of bride and groom not seeing each other before the ceremony, so she and some others probably lit in another room).

Well, one was in Australia, where you can't light until about 8 or 9 o'clock. They lit a big menorah, and they also had little menorot set out for anyone who wanted to light at the wedding. Some lit then, others waited till they got home.

The only one I remember in America, I lit before I went. You can light in NYC from about 3:40 or so, so if you call the wedding for, say, 6, or even 5, you're golden.