What was supposed to be a lunch at a local girl's school became a breakfast at a somewhat further off Jewish Center. Probably a good thing, since now it was less overshadowed by her sister's wedding.
We got her a collection of midrashim on the five Megillot (homiletics with modern commentary on the books of Esther, Lamentations, Ecclesiastes, Song of Songs and Ruth) - five volume box set, nicely bound. She will use them in school and her father approved, even if it is a tad weighty for a twelve year old.
We got a ride with friends, and arrived late, but that was okay.
The bat mitzvah had a Purim theme, with place cards on masks, and they gave out copies of the book of Esther on the tables. Which is very, very cool. What was also cool was the seating. It was separate seating, of course, *but* 3/4 of the space was for the women and girls (the bat mitzvah girl's entire grade, I think), with the men scrunched up on one side behind a mechitza. They had a female photographer, and the speeches were by mom, older sister and bat mitzvah girl - no men. Ahava's speech was clearly written for last week, but no one would expect her to write a new one in a week, so that was fine.
It also meant that there were two circles for the dancing - one for the girls, one for the women. The men managed a small on on their side. As I said - so cool. And then the seventh graders took over, playing games, doing a sort of reel and then a line dance. They were so cute.
And, you know. Breakfast is nice - they had bagels, cream cheese, fish, plus hot eggs, potatoes and french toast, and coffee and such. And if Ahava was a tad over dressed - she wore the gown she wore at her sister's wedding - it's her bat mitzvah. She had the right to do that, and she looked like a princess.