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House "Lines in the Sand" (ep 304)



Raccoon worms and stalking teen-agers aside...

My oldest brother is severely autistic. He needs routines - it makes him feel secure and safe. Any break in a routine will cause him to protest. For example, when family comes to visit him, he *has* to be taken out to eat. He expects "Kentucky Fried Chicken" at "Ginos", even though the restaurant no longer exists and he is actually willing to eat hamburgers or pizza. But that's the first request. And if you go in the wrong direction, he will let you know. And then there must be ice cream. And then he'll go sit in the car, thank you very much.

Like many autists, he doesn't like physical contact any more than he likes eye contact. Therefore, when he holds my mother's hand for an entire visit, as he's been doing, she treats it like the amazing thing it is. That he holds her boyfriend's hand is even more amazing (and I think speaks more about Lenny - he projects such an air of calm and patience that even Jeffrey responds.)

That Adam, who is even further along that curve than Jeffrey (Jeffrey has language and physical coordination), needs such severe scheduling makes perfect sense. That he made eye contact several times with House - is a miracle. That he made a real connection with this stranger is even more so, and his parents were right to rejoice in that.

I...have some Aspberger's traits. I always test high on those online quizes. I don't like my routines disrupted and I love patterns (I think this is one of the reasons knitting appeals to me - innate rhythm, you know?) A minor change can set me off unless I prepare myself for it, and I need time to adjust. Time = a couple of seconds, but I NEED it. My husband is also like this - it's what makes him a good programmer, but it's also what makes change = bad for him. And it really bothers him when something he imagines to be set in stone isn't.

House is just extremely bright. He reads people very well (I have a little problem with that), he connects with them well. I suspect he keeps away from patients because he doesn't want to make those connections - they affect the way he thinks. It's also why he's developed a personality that puts people off (that and the pain, but I think he had this personality before the vasculitis) - to reduce this. That is, he may be a touch too empathic. Better to hid in your office, you know? What he's not is autistic in any way.

I'm not sure what game he's playing with the carpet, but it's not that. It's more than a powerplay.

Comments

I thought the whole Aspergers thing was a deliberate lie to influence Cuddy about the carpet.

Now, if we only new *why* House is so obsessed with the bloody carpet...

A lot of abrasive people think they have Asperger's because they have heard a lot about it but don't actually KNOW much about it. I have no idea whether I am spectrum or not; some people think so. But I can read people well, it's just that most of the time I prefer to be in my own little world.

*nods*

I think it was pretty clear that when Wilson was telling Cuddy that House had Asperger's, he wasn't serious (I mean, pretty clear to most of us...I suspect he wanted Cuddy to think House might have had Asperger's because then there'd be more of a reason for wanting the carpet back than just whim).

And I like that Cameron knew all along that the carpet was the important thing (that it wasn't just about a powerplay) - but, yes...I want to know why he's obsessed with it too, apart from possibly a reminder of his mortality and, along with that, a reminder that certain death is sometimes beatable.

Oh, it certainly was.

I wonder if Cuddy even believed him - but Wilson's persona is that everyone believes him. Which is why he can lie so much.

Wilson was providing Cuddy with opportunity to surrender gracefully for "logical" reason.

And D? Interesting story about your brother (and you and J): thank you for sharing all that with us.

As for the empathy, yes...I absolutely agree.

I also think House saying he "envied" Adam wasn't any kind of an admission that he was also autistic (or that he had Asberger's), but rather was really about wanting to shift to the side some of his responsibilities, just as he said. With great power, comes great...well, you know the rest, and I suspect sometimes House just has to let go of that for a while.

We're...geeks, you know? Humans are hard to figure out.

But, yeah. House would like to let go. And he can't because he won't let himself ever let go. His mind is always going to be on.

But it reminded me of a very bad moment a couple of years ago when I read of someone being so depressed they couldn't get out of bed, and at that moment, my thought was, "Oh, that sounds good." Because it gets tiring. It wasn't even a bad time in my life - it just sounded good. And that thought terrified me.

Fortunately, that desire went away, but that's what this sort of sounds like. And, you know. House would be depressive if he let himself go.


Back when I worked for the supermarket, I had a young customer who would come in with his mom that I suspect is autistic. He never made eye contact, was very quiet, and only would say anything if his mom said "hello to holly". I usually didn't react to him until he said something. Or I would aim my hello at both of them.

I never did ask his mom out right if he was autistic, but I have a feeling she knew I had figured it out. I did ask after him whenever she was in by herself. He was a cutie.

I agree that House does not have Aspergers. Didn't Wilson say that to him in the end. I thought the Aspergers thing was just Wilson trying to get Cuddy to cave so House would stop harrassing him.

I was apprehensive about this episode, but I think the portrayal of Adam was pretty realistic. Well, except for the two parents rich enough to stay home with him full time.