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December 2010
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Buffy moment

I just watched this week's Buffy. I liked it. It was quiet, and nice - and is increasing the number of things that Buffy can't slay. She can't do bullets, cancer or bad hearts. Hmmm. You know. The real world.

But. There was this moment. Willow goes to visit Tara's grave. Willow, btw, looks *lovely* in a black sweater over a rust colored skirt and dark boots, as a contrast to the ugly shirt Buffy wears at the end of the episode. Anyway. She puts a couple of pebbles on Tara's grave.

And this is so *right* for an American Jewish woman - we don't do flowers. We put on stones as A. taking part in the commandment to build a memorial stone and B. because flowers *die*. Normally, we do it as we leave - a visit to a grave ends with scouring the ground for small stones - but there is nothing wrong with doing it first, and given the rest of the scene, it was the only way to do it.

And Willow so needed this closure. It was beautiful.


My family's minhag is to place the stones at the start of the visit -- and, usually, to try to bring a small stone from home, rather than taking one from the ground at the cemetary.

But yes -- I found the whole idea of the graveside visit touching, but it was the pebbles that made me choke up and get weepy...