On that note, I was meaning to ask when you first posted who thamiris was, provided it would not violate anyone's wishes or privacy for you to tell me.

I also wanted to extend condolences for the loss of a friend.

thamiris was a very talented fanwriter - mostly slash. But she was also kind and intelligent, which made her non-fiction writing - both meta (writing about the tv series or characters or about fandom itself) and personal also a joy to read.

I never met her in person - I'm not sure how many people did, given that we didn't know she'd died until several days later because she kept both sides of her life strictly separate - but the times we've commented to each other - we communicated. I'm far from alone in that. Was she a friend? I don't know, but when she disappeared for several months, I noticed. We all did.

She died of breast cancer at the age of 41 last week. We knew she was dying because she told us this, but, well. You understand. This is a tremendous loss to everyone.

That is a great idea. I'm sorry for your loss.

Yeah. It's been...I'm mourning for someone I've never seen in person. It's...not good.

thank you.