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Mama Deb
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More about Girliness Plus a Plea

It's good to proud of who you are - if you like frills and make-up and shoes, and you know when they're appropriate and when they're not (also a girly skill) and you have fun with the whole thing, that's who you are. It doesn't make you frivolous or silly - I like pamphlets with superheroes and balls of spun sheep hair and applying sharp knives to innocent foodstuff, and I wish I had the discipline to use the girl skills I do have on a regular basis. I'm seriously hoping that if I get easy to apply makeup, I might use it more often. Although, if I don't, I don't.

And I'm probably in the middle. I wear skirts as much by choice as by religious doctrine. I have a lot of fun tying my scarves. I carry purses - sometimes more than one. Part of the reason I don't wear cute shoes is that I have bad feet. I love it when my husband stops in his tracks and calls me gorgeous. I just don't want to work for it. :) I'm as much excited as flustered by this whole dressing up thing - this is why I love the Flatbush thing of dress suits. Because of that, I know I can dress for any occasion appropriately without any thought or worry - the wedding suit is going into that arsenal.

And for those of you who don't like this sort of thing, or whose brain works differently - yay! You're who you are, and better to be true to yourself than to paint your nails or wear shoes that don't feel right. And today, we have that choice in whatever way we do.

As for the plea:

I wrote a back-up story for the Reversathon. Yeah, I know. Betas?


i'm doing almost anything to avoid work right this minute. i'll beta :)

(and be 2,988 pages behind instead of 2,788!)

the girl thing can be restricting, to, though. my sister won't leave the house without doing her hair. even if it's jsut to run to the store for milk - forget it. she has to do her hair. that means curling iron, all of that. and my youngest sister has very strict rules about clothes. she won't wear certain colors or any patterns. yes, she dresses really well, but she spends too much time and energy on it!

I'm not running to the grocery store in a short-sleeved t-shirt and my hair out, either, but it takes about two minutes to toss on an overshirt (stupid elbows) and tie on a scarf.

And I know women who won't walk past their front yards without a suit and wig. And I wonder if your sisters are also following cultural norms as well.

I'm not good at cultural norms.

*LIGHT BULB* That's it! It's not girliness! It's how well you can see cultural norms and how much effort you want to go to achieve them. I manage a facsimile.

(I'll send you the story tonight. It's only about 1,000 words.)

I've noticed that's a large part of the monkey suit rigamarole for job interviews, too. Can you see the social norms in the field, and can you use them.