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December 2010
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1. I am taking my in-laws to the country this afternoon in my new rental Ford Taurus.

Iam so very NOT looking forward to this. Our original plans (pre-accident, of course) were to come up on Sunday and leave on Wednesday or Thursday. This gives us time to relax, maybe have a daytrip or something, help out a bit. It was to be my vacation, more or less. I managed to not do this last year at all - I'm a city girl through and through and find the country very boring. Also, we're in someone else's house, which means we have to live according to their rules. I can't, for example, sleep late or watch the shows I want to watch, and their internet connection is dial-up. Intermittent, bad dial-up.

Also, we go to great lengths to NOT spend a Shabbat with his parents, as the only way they observe it is to not cook. TV, telephones, computers, driving, lights - they do all of that.

We're going up today and leaving on Tuesday. I insist on leaving on Tuesday. I want *some* vacation before the onslaught of holidays. Yes, this means we're going to be there on Shabbat - in fact, as it turns out, half the reason we're going is so they can go to a bar mitzvah in their summer shul. Which is not in walking distance, so they've arranged for someone to drive them. Which means we're going to be stuck in a house ten miles from everywhere else all Shabbat, and have to deal with their violations on Shabbat. Which means spending a lot of time either in our room or outside. I'm not even sure when we'll be doing kiddush, and I can't be yotzei on her lighting candles anymore, which will be a scene, too. When we both lit two, it wasn't a problem, but I'm lighting three now.

And when it isn't Shabbat? She wants to make chicken soup and blackberry jam. Except she knows she won't have the strength to do it, so I'll have to do it. I don't mind making soup - soup cooks itself. I've never made jam. The soup she'll freeze, so I won't taste a drop of it, and I'll get a jar of the jam.

I've never made jam, and I don't really want to make jam.

And because both are all-day things that really can't be done at the same time (burner space, you know?), she doesn't like that we want to take a day to, you know. *DO* stuff - nice used bookstores there, for example. It will be my vacation, after all.

Yeah, big head of resentment here.

And she just told Jonathan that it's inconvenient that we keep kosher outside the house, since we can't stop just anywhere. No, it's not. It just takes a bit more planning - she used to do this herself when they traveled with small children, since taking your own food saves money.

Oh, yeah. This is going to be so very much fun.
2. On a different note: I sent Jonathan (who is a decent shopper) to the grocery store to pick up stuff from a local grocery store. I think he called me three times to make sure he got what I wanted. And he refused to ask anyone in the store where things were - it's like asking for directions. :)

Anyway, this means I'll probably be gone until Tuesday night. See you afterwards!


Ugh. That sounds challenging.

I'm confused about the candles. Doesn't lighting an extra one make it easier for you -- you can't be yotzei on her two because your rabbi requires you to light three, so you just do your own? I'm obviously missing something.

She believes in lighting for the household - only one person does it - and gets insulted otherwise.

This is someone who asked if I "allowed myself" to knit on Shabbat - which she knows is forbidden.