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Mama Deb
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Bad week for Parents

1. My folks were to come out here for a last night of Chanukah dinner.

My stepfather just called. Mom's in the emergency room being check for heart problems - she had pain this morning.

Her name is Batya Rochel bat Chana.

2. On a different note - last week, I gave my father-in-law a hand-knitted scarf. He loved it - put it on and didn't take it off. Last night, I spoke to my mother-in-law. He still loves the scarf. He sees it, thinks it's nice and wonders where it came from. She tells him I made it. He gets very happy. And it happens again. He has no short-term memory at all anymore. (He calls his new granddaughter "Sybil." Her name is Wynn, and we don't know who Sybil is.)

ETa: my brother called. He spoke to my mother. They're just ruling things out and she should be going home soon. Baruch HaShem.


Baruch Hashem she'd getting better, and may it continue with His blessings. Re: your father-in-law: wvwn if her forgets that something happened, the fact that he gets happy again when reminded of a pleasant event is not necessarily a cause for sadness. At this stage of his illness, if everything has been ruled out that can change it, it may be better to enjoy the fact that he can become happy over and over for one thing. I worked with a very wise nurse many years ago who took care of alzheimier patients a lot, and he minimized telling them bad news and emphasized good news. It made their lives so much happier. And how important is veracity to factsd if it just causes sadness for which there is no relief. He is very fortunate to have your motherr in law and a close family aroound. My mother used to think I was her mother, and because she was happy to see me and to know that I was taking care of her, the fact that roles were reversed really didn't matter. She was happy so I was happy, and both of us truly lived in the moment. Best of luck and happy chodesh.